When You Think Life is Unfair

As of this writing, I am 25 years old and turning 26 on the 21st of April. I am single and a mother of a one year old child. Everytime I get to meet new friends and colleagues, they would always tell me in awe that life is so unfair because my body and face doesn’t show that I am already a mother. 

I always get surprised hearing the phrase, “Life is so unfair.” And hearing everyone tell me that I am so lucky to have maintained my body shape after the pregnancy because if they only knew what I had gone through, they wouldn’t want to be in my shoe. I strongly believe that we are all a product of our experiences. Sometimes, we think that other people are having it easy and we tend to get jealous at them thinking that maybe we could be happier if we were them. But the truth is, everyone is struggling and everyone is carrying a baggage just like you do. We just carry different baggages in life and it just depends on how you want to carry those baggages, how long do you want to carry them and when are you willing to put them down.

The truth is, everyone in the world gets hurt. Nobody has it easy and the world is not obliged to protect you from pain. But you have to move on and you have to choose to love and forgive. Because if you don’t, it’s more like choosing not to live anymore. No one is obliged to make you happy and no one is liable for your unhappiness either. Our happiness and unhappiness are the result of our choices. If you choose to stay in a toxic relationship which makes you unhappy, it is not your partner’s fault why you are unhappy. It is a result of your choice to stay on it. If you are happy inlove with someone, it is not the person who is making you happy. It is a result of your choice to keep the person in your life that is making you happy. Everything we feel and everything we have is a result of our choices. Life is never easy and we can never have a perfect life. Nobody has a perfect life, nobody is perfect and nobody is perfectly happy in all aspects of their life. Happiness is a choice even though you know that life isn’t perfect. Yes, it isn’t easy as ABC to forgive someone and put down the baggages. Yes, sorry can never erase everything you’ve gone through especially if you didn’t only get hurt. It is so hard to forgive when your life has been messed up and your dreams had crushed down because of what happened. But sometimes we have to realize that it might have happened because of what someone did, but you had the choice if you are going to let them do it to you. You have to let go of the baggages that are pulling you backwards. You have to forgive and continue to love. Continue to love someone else who deserves your love. Yet you still have a choice to let someone who did you wrong

 to stay in your life after all the mishaps and if they make your life miserable again, never put the blame on them. Because you have a choice not to let them in.

We have to realize that most of our pain are self-inflicted. The truth is, life is simple. It is our choices that are making it complicated.

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