Choices- Why Does it Matter? 

1.) DOING WHAT IS WRONG IS EASY,  DOING WHAT IS RIGHT WILL ALWAYS BE DIFFICULT

A lot of people would rather choose to do the wrong things.  Why would we even care about doing what is right when everyone is doing what’s wrong? When someone wrongs you, holding a grudge and taking revenge at them is the easiest, forgiving them is the hardest. The reason why the world is full of malignity is because everyone is choosing to do what’s wrong. Everyone is following the crowd. No one dares to take a stand and choose the road less traveled because they are afraid of being alone. When someone is doing the wrong thing, they’re clearing their conscience with the thought of knowing someone or other people who is doing the same thing. But the question is, “Did it make their life easier? Did it make their conscience pure? Were they able to live a good life?” The result will always matter. I honestly think that it would be better to do the right things even if it’s hard and end up with a better result rather than doing the wrong things which is easy, but the resolution is temporary.

 

2.) TRUST IN HIM

When you’ve lost something or someone, better things are on the way. Trust God in everything. He wants you to let go of what you currently have because He prepares something better for you. Let go of what is making you sad or hurt because that’s not what He wants and you don’t deserve it. Often times, we question His purpose and we ask Him why. But sooner, we’ll get the picture of it. Let go of what is in your hand because so long as you are not letting it go, you won’t be able to receive His blessing. Let go of what isn’t helping your soul smile and grow. Once you got the courage to let go, you will realize that you really did not lose something. He always has something better for you and everything works according to His plan.

– For I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11)

3.) LOOK AT THE POSITIVE SIDE

Someone once told me when I was in deep pain that there is something good about pain, it defines strength. I believe it’s true. You’ll never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only option you’ve got. Experience is the best teacher in life. It teaches you the things that you are refusing to learn. You’ll keep on experiencing it over and over again until you get to learn the things that you have to learn.

4.) HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE

The people who still can smile and laugh amidst the predicaments they’re facing are not hypocrite. They just chose to be happy and trust God with the result. Often times in prayer, people tell Him their burdens and afterwards they choose to worry about it. When you cast all your burdens upon Him, He will give you rest. Worrying is a sign of not having enough faith and trust that whatever you are facing will end up with a good result. The end will always justify the mean. You may not see it clearly yet but if you trust God with the result, worrying won’t be in your element.

5.) YOU WILL GROW OLD

When you are already old, you will spend your whole life looking back and reminiscing. And when you look back, whatever you are doing now will either be something that will make you smile or regret for the rest of your life. Did you live in selfishness or in generosity? Did you live in truth or lie? Were you the reason for someone’s happiness or distress? Did you abandon or help someone? Are you the reason for someone to live or the reason why someone died? Did you save a dying person or did you kill someone? Your choices matter and everything else matters. Maybe not today but you can never escape. Everything becomes wear and tear. After all, the moment that you die and leave this earth, you can never bring your wealth, your friends and family can’t accompany you anymore. You have nothing else with you but your soul alone.

Who I Used To Be

I used to question God’s love and presence in my life. I used to believe that if you are kind, people will abuse you. I used to carry heartache, pain and hatred in my heart. I used to believe that vengeance will be able to make me feel better. But the truth is, it will destroy me more. It will add an insult to my injury and will fuel the fire.
I was lost and weary but God has found me and He loved me in my most unlovable state. He made me realize that I am not a label, I am not my job, I am not my status. I am pure creative energy. I am a miracle. I am enough. The state of joy, bliss and happiness is our true state, our natural state. Hate, pain and suffering are caused by our own thinking and by the society’s norm as to what a person should be or what a perfect life looks like.

“Why me?”
A victim will use this line of thinking to justify their beliefs in thinking that the world is against them. The world is against nobody. It is you against you. I believe I experienced some challenges in life because I needed to. That in fact, the things I once considered to be the worst things that have ever happened to me are now actually my biggest gifts. These lessons are what have shaped me today. It is because of these events that I can listen to people and say I understand you, I feel you, I know because I actually do.

“When will the pain end?”

The pain will only end when you decide to change your thinking. Its a choice we all have. You are telling the story of your life, you have the power to tell a different one. You choose everyday how you interpret other’s actions, how you interpret events and how you interpret the world around you. God has written your story even before you were born. No one can dictate who you should be because He knows you better than anyone else.

If there is someone right now sitting there with pain in their heart, with suffering in their mind and doesn’t know when it will end. I’m here to tell you, pain doesn’t last forever. No matter how bad it gets or it has been, it can change around. Right here, right now.

Do you know how I know? because I was you.

We Have Our Own Journey

Hello, I’m back. I’ve been writing through my facebook wall these past few days because I wasn’t able to access my wordpress account recently. Today, I want to express my thoughts about our individual journey.

We are all a product of our experiences and I believe that we are all a work in progress. Things that happened in the past was meant to happen to shape us and to be the person that we are today.
The sad thing about it is that, most of the people who tend to judge you are the people close to you. There will always be a lot of people who would keep on reminding you about your past and would try to convince you that you are not worthy. But the thing is, they are judging a person that they no longer know.

It seems so sad to think and realize that the people who you thought would always be there for you and won’t let you down are the ones who would. The people who you thought are the one who would love and accept your imperfections aren’t the one. The people who are supposed to know you better and what you have been through don’t have a single idea about it.

It seems so sad when people talk about religion but they promote judgment and persecution instead of love and kindness. But you can never judge someone just because the person isn’t like you. And we can never judge someone because we don’t know their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to know that you are on the right path and it’s another thing to think that yours is the only path.

I am not a perfect person, I have made a lot of mistakes and I have hurt some people and even the people I dearly love. But when I think about humanity, how many times do we often see the goodness in someone more than the bad? How many times do we often think about being better than who we were before more than being better than other people?

 

Life is a journey, no one is ahead of you or behind you. No one can tell you who you should be or what you should be. Nobody can dictate the path that you should take because only God knows where you are supposed to be.

Broken

Remember the first time you got your heart broken? It hurts like hell right? It’s funny how someone who meant the world to you and promised you the whole world is now

a stranger. So there you are, alone and afraid to fall in love because you don’t want to feel broken again. It’s funny how the person you once loved is now the reason for your hatred. 
It’s true that you can never force someone to love you regardless if you are still committed. Everything is borrowed and temporary. Once they fall out of love, it would be so hard to get them to love you back again. 

Having said that, though we don’t own their hearts, I believe that we are all entitled for respect and we are all entitled for an honest goodbye. 

But what if we’re left hanging not knowing that we are waiting for nothing because no one’s coming back?

How hard is it to be honest and tell you that they don’t love you anymore and they just want to be free? No matter how painful the words are, we all deserve an explanation. 

What adds an insult to your injury is knowing that they were the one who stabbed you and then they act like they are the one who’s bleeding.

So there you are, feeling used, dumped and insecure asking what is wrong with you. 

The truth is, nothing is wrong with you. You just chose the wrong person. You just chose not to follow your intuition when you first met them and found their boo-boos. You ignored those things because you were blinded by your infatuation. 

There’s nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with the people you choose to be with. 

What I have learned in my 26 years of existence is that you don’t have to welcome all the people that you meet in your life. You have to choose wisely and follow your instincts. Avoid people who mess with your head. Avoid people who keep on doing the things that upset you. Avoid people who want you to prioritize them but refuses to prioritize you. 

You might have been left out, but I call it destiny when you grow from a place where someone left you in.

When You’re In Pain

As cliche’ as it sounds, pain is inevitable and it is always a part of life. There are different reasons why we feel the pain. The truth is, no one is exempted to feel it. Regardless if you are a good person or you haven’t hurt someone else means you won’t get hurt too. 

The question is, “Which kind of pain are you choosing?” Is it the pain of holding on or letting go? The pain of dwelling in the past or moving on? Is it the pain that gets you stuck in your old self or the pain that makes you grow and become a better version of yourself? Are you using the pain to make yourself bitter or are you taking it as a challenge to make yourself better?

I know it’s never easy. Especially if it the wound is fresh and you feel like you don’t want to get up from bed because the pain is excruciating and you have no one to tell it to. You are emotionally gashed and you just can’t focus on everything. But even if you feel that no one cares, the truth is, God cares. He knows what you are going through and He is always ready to listen to your frustrations and heartaches. We just often put God in a box and we try to tell Him how to do it but God uses an orthodox method. It doesn’t always makes sense to us but in the end, the result is always beautiful. God always answers prayer not just in a way that you expect it to be.

Are you open to the method that God is going to do to heal you? 

Pain is always a part of life but if God is with us, nothing can destroy us. God can turn every pain, every trial and every persecutions in your life into something beautiful that you can nev

er imagine just trust Him and let Him do it His way.

When You Think Life is Unfair

As of this writing, I am 25 years old and turning 26 on the 21st of April. I am single and a mother of a one year old child. Everytime I get to meet new friends and colleagues, they would always tell me in awe that life is so unfair because my body and face doesn’t show that I am already a mother. 

I always get surprised hearing the phrase, “Life is so unfair.” And hearing everyone tell me that I am so lucky to have maintained my body shape after the pregnancy because if they only knew what I had gone through, they wouldn’t want to be in my shoe. I strongly believe that we are all a product of our experiences. Sometimes, we think that other people are having it easy and we tend to get jealous at them thinking that maybe we could be happier if we were them. But the truth is, everyone is struggling and everyone is carrying a baggage just like you do. We just carry different baggages in life and it just depends on how you want to carry those baggages, how long do you want to carry them and when are you willing to put them down.

The truth is, everyone in the world gets hurt. Nobody has it easy and the world is not obliged to protect you from pain. But you have to move on and you have to choose to love and forgive. Because if you don’t, it’s more like choosing not to live anymore. No one is obliged to make you happy and no one is liable for your unhappiness either. Our happiness and unhappiness are the result of our choices. If you choose to stay in a toxic relationship which makes you unhappy, it is not your partner’s fault why you are unhappy. It is a result of your choice to stay on it. If you are happy inlove with someone, it is not the person who is making you happy. It is a result of your choice to keep the person in your life that is making you happy. Everything we feel and everything we have is a result of our choices. Life is never easy and we can never have a perfect life. Nobody has a perfect life, nobody is perfect and nobody is perfectly happy in all aspects of their life. Happiness is a choice even though you know that life isn’t perfect. Yes, it isn’t easy as ABC to forgive someone and put down the baggages. Yes, sorry can never erase everything you’ve gone through especially if you didn’t only get hurt. It is so hard to forgive when your life has been messed up and your dreams had crushed down because of what happened. But sometimes we have to realize that it might have happened because of what someone did, but you had the choice if you are going to let them do it to you. You have to let go of the baggages that are pulling you backwards. You have to forgive and continue to love. Continue to love someone else who deserves your love. Yet you still have a choice to let someone who did you wrong

 to stay in your life after all the mishaps and if they make your life miserable again, never put the blame on them. Because you have a choice not to let them in.

We have to realize that most of our pain are self-inflicted. The truth is, life is simple. It is our choices that are making it complicated.