You’re Not In Love, You’re In Love With The Idea Of Love

Here you are again, giving another chance to the person who has already hurt you so many times.

Here you are again, saying you love a person you just met a few days ago.

Here you are again, going out with the person your friends warned you about.

Here you are again, doing stupid, sweet things with someone you just met in a club.

Here you are again, thinking you are in love. Well the truth is, you are not. You are not in love. You just want someone to tell you nice things and make you feel better. You just want someone to take care of you because you can’t do it yourself. You just want someone to love you so you can boost your ego and feel pretty. You just want something to talk about with your friends. You just want someone to make you feel important because deep inside, you feel empty.

Deep inside, you know you are not really in love. You just don’t want to be alone.

If you think love is finding someone who will complete you, then you are just wasting time. You are not looking for love, you are merely going for the idea of love. You can’t love someone if you are not complete. You have to be happy with yourself before you could share happiness with another person. You can’t live with someone just because they make you feel good about yourself. You have to face the mirror and feel contented with what you see before you share your whole life with that person.

Before you go into a relationship, create yourself first. Decide what kind of person you will be. Know your flaws and weaknesses and use that knowledge to be the best person you can be.

Don’t flirt with every person that comes your way. Be choosy. Have standards and stick to these standards.

Don’t settle for less than you deserve just because everyone around you is in a relationship.

Don’t go for the 2nd best option just because you think the right person for you will not come.

Don’t find and wait for the right person, be the right person. You have to show the people around you that you are a person worth loving and worth spending forever with.

If you chose someone just because you think they’re going to fill the gap in your life, you should have filled your own, No matter how many relationships you get into, no matter how many people flirt with you, in the end, you’ll just feel you are forever alone and in love with the idea of being in love.

Broken

Remember the first time you got your heart broken? It hurts like hell right? It’s funny how someone who meant the world to you and promised you the whole world is now

a stranger. So there you are, alone and afraid to fall in love because you don’t want to feel broken again. It’s funny how the person you once loved is now the reason for your hatred. 
It’s true that you can never force someone to love you regardless if you are still committed. Everything is borrowed and temporary. Once they fall out of love, it would be so hard to get them to love you back again. 

Having said that, though we don’t own their hearts, I believe that we are all entitled for respect and we are all entitled for an honest goodbye. 

But what if we’re left hanging not knowing that we are waiting for nothing because no one’s coming back?

How hard is it to be honest and tell you that they don’t love you anymore and they just want to be free? No matter how painful the words are, we all deserve an explanation. 

What adds an insult to your injury is knowing that they were the one who stabbed you and then they act like they are the one who’s bleeding.

So there you are, feeling used, dumped and insecure asking what is wrong with you. 

The truth is, nothing is wrong with you. You just chose the wrong person. You just chose not to follow your intuition when you first met them and found their boo-boos. You ignored those things because you were blinded by your infatuation. 

There’s nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with the people you choose to be with. 

What I have learned in my 26 years of existence is that you don’t have to welcome all the people that you meet in your life. You have to choose wisely and follow your instincts. Avoid people who mess with your head. Avoid people who keep on doing the things that upset you. Avoid people who want you to prioritize them but refuses to prioritize you. 

You might have been left out, but I call it destiny when you grow from a place where someone left you in.

The Cure for the Pain is in the Pain

Hello, it’s been a while. Today, I want to write about the cure for our pain. 

In order for our wound to be healed, we need to undergo the pain of the being pricked. We need to bear with the stinging pain of the ointments but we normally refuse. It’s because we know it will hurt us more. Even though we know that it is the only remedy for our pain.

Emotionally, we often love our wound more than thinking of loving ourselves. And don’t you think it’s funny how we find ourselves loving the person who hurt us more than we love ourselves? So, we end up bearing all the pain that we feel because of them, and we end up staying stuck in a situation that is so painful just because we don’t want to let them go.

However, as days go by, we get used to the pain that it already makes us numb. We thought it’s normal because we got used to it. So, we just let things be the way they are although we know that there’s something wrong. 

The truth is, we won’t realize how poorly someone is treating us until we meet someone who treats us the way we should be treated. That’s when we realize that we shouldn’t allow people to treat us poorly just because we love them. 

We tend to hold on to the pain just because we already got used to it. Taking the bitter pill or that stinging needle of injection for us to be cured may hurt a little more, b

ut would you rather choose a lifetime kind of pain or the temporary kind of pain? Would you rather suffer for the rest of your life or take the risk of feeling the unfamiliar kind of pain that leads you to your healing?