Single and Happy

We live in a world where in being alone seems like a curse. People would think that you are lonely just because you don’t have a  romantic partner. We live in a world where in it seems like your happiness depends on the validation of the people around you. A world where people think you are lonely and pitiful just because you’re single. 
Sometimes I think that maybe I am eccentric or crazy or weird (Well, I really am). I’ve been in love and have been in a relationship. And to compare, I can say that being in a relationship is far worse than being single. I am not saying that everyone who are in a relationship are miserable. And not everyone who are single are lonely either. I believe, it is always a case to case basis. 
I just can’t fathom why people associate the word lonely with single people. I really don’t understand. Because when we were young, our child instinct would always give us an idea as to how we could be happy and enjoy life with the little things around us. We don’t think about romance or having a significant other so that we can be happy. Because as a child, our natural state is being happy. 
When we wake up in the morning, we are excited to pile up and play. We enjoy the simplicity of life. But as we grow old, the society slowly convinces us that happiness comes from other people. That we aren’t worthy if the person we love doesn’t loves us back. The society convinces us that we can’t be alone because we’ll become lonely if we do. 
Do you remember the last time when you are happy and that happiness didn’t come from other person? You are happy just because you do and there is no reason behind it. You are happy just because you choose to be happy whether you are loved by the people around you or not. When was the last time when you are happy just because it comes naturally? Just because you know that Jesus loves you and your life is a gift from Him. Just because you are thankful. Just because you know that everyday is another chance to be a blessing and be blessed by everyone around you.

When You’re Forcing Love to Stay Alive, It isn’t Love Anymore.

Sometimes love is ugly, challenging, frustrating, painful – even in the happiest and strongest of relationships. Love takes work. It takes effort. Love is not always light and pretty. It takes the ability to admit when you’re wrong. It takes dedication, it takes loyalty.

But there is a difference between fighting for something that you know is too good to let go of, and clinging on to something that has already died.

Often, deep down, we already know when it’s not love anymore. What it is is familiarity, routine, insurance. It’s something we’ve gotten used to. It’s a security blanket. It’s the guarantee that we aren’t alone. Sometimes the death of love is easier to sense, if we’re with someone who directly makes us incredibly unhappy. And sometimes it’s harder to admit to ourselves, because we’re with someone whom we care about deeply, even if we’re no longer in love with them. But no matter the specific circumstances, we try to convince ourselves that the love is still there, because we’re not ready for the alternative.

And so we grasp onto it, no matter how much our gut resists, because we’d rather cling to something that is dead than willingly step into a world where we are hurt and alone.

It’s not a fault really, not a flaw. Just human nature. It is in our bones to want to be with other people. To feel instantly comforted from the touch or the assurance of another human being. To feel actual, physical pain when we stretch out in bed and are once again reminded that there is no longer a warm body in the place next to us.

But we must remember that there is a difference between forcing love and fighting for it. Forcing love – forcing yourself to feel something – is not love at all. It’s a manufactured emotion your body has created as a coping mechanism, a survival instinct. Forcing love means it’s already dead. And when you spend all your time forcing yourself to love someone, you miss the opportunity to fight for the person who really sets your soul on fire. The choice isn’t easy, but at least it’s yours.

Every Scar Tells A Story

Every scar tells a story.
Wounds hurt but scars tell a story. 
When you’re wounded, you don’t let people touch it because it hurts. 
So you cringe and pull back. 
But scars, you usually tell your friends about it’s story and you’re not afraid to show it or allow them to touch it because it no longer hurts. 
A scar is a reminder that after a painful experience, nothing will ever be the same and the lesson will forever smudge with you. 
What is your story to tell? 

Are you still afraid?

Or are you no longer afraid to show it?

Beauty in Brokenness

Isn’t it ironic to realize that being broken is actually the best thing that ever happened to you? Because it made you realize that you’ve been lying to yourself. When you feel being used and lied to.. You ignore it and you tell yourself that it isn’t true which in the end would lead you to being emotionally and physically drained. Being broken makes you realize that it is very important to always be honest with yourself. That feeling you have when you think that something is really wrong or something is really right.. it is our intuition telling us that when we listen to our heart and mind, we should always treat them with equal respect and recognition. Being honest with yourself is so important in business and career as it is in love and relationship. It is so hard to lie to yourself.

While the truth isn’t always fun, most of the time it is actually painful but I believe that being true to yourself is the only way for you to create, inspire, innovate, be empowered and achieve the greatness that our world desperately needs.

Choices- Why Does it Matter? 


A lot of people would rather choose to do the wrong things.  Why would we even care about doing what is right when everyone is doing what’s wrong? When someone wrongs you, holding a grudge and taking revenge at them is the easiest, forgiving them is the hardest. The reason why the world is full of malignity is because everyone is choosing to do what’s wrong. Everyone is following the crowd. No one dares to take a stand and choose the road less traveled because they are afraid of being alone. When someone is doing the wrong thing, they’re clearing their conscience with the thought of knowing someone or other people who is doing the same thing. But the question is, “Did it make their life easier? Did it make their conscience pure? Were they able to live a good life?” The result will always matter. I honestly think that it would be better to do the right things even if it’s hard and end up with a better result rather than doing the wrong things which is easy, but the resolution is temporary.



When you’ve lost something or someone, better things are on the way. Trust God in everything. He wants you to let go of what you currently have because He prepares something better for you. Let go of what is making you sad or hurt because that’s not what He wants and you don’t deserve it. Often times, we question His purpose and we ask Him why. But sooner, we’ll get the picture of it. Let go of what is in your hand because so long as you are not letting it go, you won’t be able to receive His blessing. Let go of what isn’t helping your soul smile and grow. Once you got the courage to let go, you will realize that you really did not lose something. He always has something better for you and everything works according to His plan.

– For I know the plans I have for you. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11)


Someone once told me when I was in deep pain that there is something good about pain, it defines strength. I believe it’s true. You’ll never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only option you’ve got. Experience is the best teacher in life. It teaches you the things that you are refusing to learn. You’ll keep on experiencing it over and over again until you get to learn the things that you have to learn.


The people who still can smile and laugh amidst the predicaments they’re facing are not hypocrite. They just chose to be happy and trust God with the result. Often times in prayer, people tell Him their burdens and afterwards they choose to worry about it. When you cast all your burdens upon Him, He will give you rest. Worrying is a sign of not having enough faith and trust that whatever you are facing will end up with a good result. The end will always justify the mean. You may not see it clearly yet but if you trust God with the result, worrying won’t be in your element.


When you are already old, you will spend your whole life looking back and reminiscing. And when you look back, whatever you are doing now will either be something that will make you smile or regret for the rest of your life. Did you live in selfishness or in generosity? Did you live in truth or lie? Were you the reason for someone’s happiness or distress? Did you abandon or help someone? Are you the reason for someone to live or the reason why someone died? Did you save a dying person or did you kill someone? Your choices matter and everything else matters. Maybe not today but you can never escape. Everything becomes wear and tear. After all, the moment that you die and leave this earth, you can never bring your wealth, your friends and family can’t accompany you anymore. You have nothing else with you but your soul alone.